Do you keep count of your spouse’s faults or mistakes? I did in my first marriage. I wasn’t the only one. But each of us are responsible for our own actions. I did not let God work in me – I did try for a long time, and then I gave up. Turned away from my God and my husband. I hurt my family and my friends. However, God is the God of second chances (so thankful for that). My second marriage is much better. Yes, it’s messy, but it’s also beautiful. Mostly it’s beautiful because BOTH of us are doing our best to follow Jesus. Both of us are reading His word and praying consistently. We both know what mistakes we made in our first marriages and have learned from those mistakes. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not all easy going. We have our problems, but we try very hard to keep communication open – to not go to bed angry, but most importantly, to allow God to work in us. To do things His way.
I’m part of a launch team for a new book coming out soon. It’s called, “Messy Beautiful Love” by Darlene Schacht. So far I’ve read the first three chapters and I’m mesmerized! She’s honest and has such good advice – godly and practical advice on how to improve your attitude about your spouse, different challenges after each chapter, prayers to start with… If you’re having marital problems, or have the desire to go the extra mile to keep working on your marriage, this is a must-read!
There are also freebies for pre-ordering! Check out the website at http://messybeautifullove.com
This quote is from the third chapter of the book: “Record keeping damages our hearts and feeds the root of bitterness within us, while love heals the wound. When we love someone we ‘beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things’ (1 Corinthians 13:7). In other words, when we love someone, we believe in him. We look past the messy to find the misunderstood intentions inside him”.